Reflection on meeting

Date: Tuesday 9^th October, 2012

 

Venue: W104

 

Time: 11:30 a.m

 

Chairman: Ahmed Nabil

 

Secretary: Ahmed Naser

 

Participant, in the role of family court representative: Abdulla Reehan

 

Participant, representing women’s rights: Khuloud

 

Topic: “Divorce in the UAE “

 

 

Ahmed Nabil started the meeting discussing about a main huge problem in the UAE; it’s the growth of divorce in the UAE and how to reduce it. Invited to list the main reasons for divorce in this country, Khuloud said:

a) Family interference                

 

b) Marriage to foreign nationalities

 

c) Dowries

 

d) Arranged marriages

 

Abdulla Reehan talked about the adverse psychological effect of divorce on children. Also, he wanted some suggestions and different ideas to know how to reduce divorce.

a) Khuloud spotlighted a main thing that might let the married couples get divorced, which is parents are poisoning the couples’ minds to get divorce and let them get married again. So what’s better to do is to practise living in close proximity to extended family which often causes interference in a married couple’s life by other family members.

 

b) Ahmed Naser gave an example of one of his friends who had married a foreigner: he was a local man with an Omani mother who had married an Omani girl. Although both were Arabs, they had different customs and traditions which caused them marital problems.

 

c) The high amount of dowry payments was discussed as a cause of early friction and discontent.

 

d) Khuloud mentioned that arranged marriages could also lead to resentment and separation and divorce.

 

 

 

 

 

Recommendations:

 

Mr. Ahmed Nabil and Mr. Ahmed Nasser gave some recommendations which are:-

 

1-  Make educational lectures to introduce the lifestyle of married couples and the possible problems that can occur for the two kinds, male and female

 

2-  Create a period of time for the couples to live alone before divorce and see if they are willing to live alone without needing the other before proceeding with the divorce.

 

3-  Let the female and the male interact with each other in the work place and in the educational life with respecting limits so they learn how to act in the presence of the other”

The meeting was well controlled by Ahmed Nabil. All members contributed to the discussion.

 

Ahmed Nabil ended the meeting at 11:50a.m, by thanking the participants in a polite way for coming.

 

 

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LSC1503 Group Meeting

                                           Problem ( Divorce )

Date of meeting: 2^nd Oct 2012

Venue: W104

Group members:

1. Khuloud Alzaabi (H00235198)

2. Abdullah Reehan (S990014889)

3. Ahmed Naser (H00234785)

4. Ahmed Nabil (H00237084)

Chair: Ahmed Nabil

Secretary: Ahmed Naser

Participants: Khuloud Alzaabi , Abdullah Reehan

Agenda:

- Why is the percentage of divorce so high in the UAE?

- Why are the local men getting married to other nationalities?

- The advantages and disadvantages of getting a divorce?

- How should we reduce the divorce rate?

 

 

Minutes:-

Ahmed Nabil started the meeting with a 2 minute introduction“Good Morning everyone today my secretary and I are going to consult the divorce problem with Ms.Khuload on behalf the association for Women's Rights and Mr. Abdullah Altenaji on behalf of the family court. First, I’d like to start by introducing myself am Ahmed Nabil the chairmen of this consulting company this is Mr. Ahmed Nasser my secretary who’s going to start with this meeting Mr. Ahmed please start with the point you prepared for us.’’

Ahmed Nasser started with the first point “Good morning everybody; like our chairman Mr. Ahmed Nabil said we are going to talk about 4 main points, The first point is the high percentage of divorce in the UAE; Ms. Khuloud since you are representing women in our case can you tell me why the rate of divorce is high in your opinion?”

The conversation between Ahmed Nasser and Ms. Khuloud took around 3 minutes

Ms. Khuloud Al-Zaabi answered Ahmed Nasser’s question and replied to him with another question

“Thank you for having us here to discuss this major problem in our society.

And the percentage of divorce is getting higher and higher because of two main reasons; the reasons are:-

v Quick change in society ; for example families in the UAE no longer stay together like children are not interact with their parents a lot,also parents are counting on the maids to raise the children .

v Family interference in the couples life , and this is a main reason that can ruin everything between the two couples .For example, The parents are poisoning the couples minds to get divorce and let them get married again but that’s not a solution; they just made the problem worse.

And don’t forget Mr. Ahmed that there is another main reason which is the cultural clash when a local man marries from other nationalities’

Ahmed Nasser gives his opinion about Ms. Khuloud’s question

“I agree with you; some of the local men are getting married to women from other countries which might lead to a cultural clash which leads to divorce. The second reason is the high amount of dowry asked for”

Ahmed Nabil redirected Ahmed Naseer’s second point and made it a question to Mr. Abdullah Al-Tenaji asking “Since we are discussing the high rate of dowry Mr. Abdullah why don’t the courts do a specific limit for dowries so it becomes possible for all locals to afford it, and can you tell us about the advantages and disadvantage of divorce”

Mr. Al-Tenaji stated his opinion and then asked for sulotions

· Thank you Mr. Ahmed for having me here today.

· Actually we are in the process of solving this problem.

And the advantages and disadvantages of divorce that you’re wondering about:-

1. An advantage of divorce for the couples is in case of they are forced by their family to get married; in this case better for both to get divorced if it does not work out.

2. The disadvantage is it creates problems and hate between the two families, Also the children are raised without one of the couple.

· However I am here to solve the problem of divorce in this meeting because it is a serious problem; we can’t solve it in one meeting”

Mr. Ahmed Nabil and Mr. Ahmed Nasser gave the suggested recommendations.

Suggestions:-

1- Make educational lectures to introduce the lifestyle of married couples and the possible problems that can occur for the two kinds male and female

2- Create a period of time for the couples to live alone before divorce and see if they are willing to live alone without needing the other before proceeding with the divorce.

3- Let the female and the male interact with each other in the work place and in the educational life with respecting limits so they learn how to act in the presence of the other”

Ahmed Nabil ended the meeting by thanking the participants for coming and hoping they got the answers they came looking for.